Key takeaways on how to be a good mentor, mentee or both
- [19:29] Never pay for mentoring—it should be freely given and gratefully received.
- [41:18] Before seeking out a mentor, clarify your strengths and what you need to build on.
- [44:53] F*** imposter syndrome—it’s a self-diagnosed disease.
- [47:03] Mentorship unlocks inclusion.
[07:34] Why is mentorship important to you?
- Sherilyn Shackell:
- Mentorship is a gift.
- It is often confused with coaching.
- Mentorship is the complete opposite of coaching.
- Coaches lead the coachee to come up with their own solutions, their own path, and their own ideas.
- Mentors will impart their mentee advice on what they might do if they were in their situation.
- A mentor is…
- …part-teacher
- …part-guide
- …part-guru
- Mentorship is the complete opposite of coaching.
- George Liso Thole:
- Mentorship is more powerful when mentor and mentee have shared experiences.
- Using social capital to open doors for others is very important.
- Annabel Venner:
- Everybody in their career, no matter how successful, has challenges at certain points.
- Madelaine Allen:
- Mentees should take care to be prepared before their mentoring sessions.
- Be clear and specific with your questions, and share options from your own experience.
- Open-mindedness leads to the best conversations.
[26:49] How do you prepare for mentoring sessions as a mentee?
- George Liso Thole:
- Prepare your questions and structure them in advance to make the most out of your time with your mentor.
- You don’t have to stick to mentors who are in your specific industry only.
- The rich diversity of perspectives from individuals of different sectors can also be extremely valuable.
- Sherilyn Shackell:
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- Mentoring is about give, not get—for both mentors and mentees.
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[35:56] How do you find the right mentor?
- Madelaine Allen:
- Be really clear about what you want to get out of it.
- You can also pick someone you admire and simply ask for their time.
- Let them know exactly what you want to talk about when asking for their mentorship to set expectations right off the bat.
- Mentors should also share their work publicly so that their areas of expertise are clear.
- Annabel Venner:
- Go have a look into who is already open to mentoring, check their background, and see whether they will be helpful to you.
- Ask the prospective mentee exactly what they want out of their first session to see if it’s a right fit on a practical level.
- Sherilyn Shackell:
- Don’t write, “Can you be my mentor?” to a complete stranger.
- Mentors don’t wear labels.
- The best mentors are those individuals that you naturally gravitate to for input and advice.
- There are people you already know who would be great mentors, and they may be a peer or even junior to you.
- Know what skills you want to build on.
- George Liso Thole:
- A lot of people want mentorship, but they just don’t know where to begin or where to look.
- Mentorship should be a part of the work culture of organizations so that their people understand and appreciate the benefits of mentorship.
- Mentorship unlocks inclusion.
- You’re never too old for mentorship.
[52:46] What do you do when a mentor-mentee relationship doesn’t go the way you wanted it to?
- Madelaine Allen:
- Always set clear expectations from the start to avoid mentorship-gone-wrong.
- Make the relationship informal and don’t be overly strict with time duration.
- Sherilyn Shackell:
- Don’t worry if the chemistry doesn’t work.
- It’s a happy accident if you develop a life-long mentor-mentee relationship.
- Don’t seek a relationship where you’re joined to the hip for the rest of your life.
- The important point is to find value in the specific timeframe you set.
- Sometimes, you learn more from people you don’t like than from those you do.